Backpacking Anyone?

My wife (affectionately called Kak Mariam) and I attended Br Zalman and Sis Masyithah's sharing of experience from their 22 months studying in Hartford Seminary, Connecticut. Thanks to them for inviting us to the session, and to the younger Perdaus/SAFF brothers and sisters for receiving us, despite our intergenerational difference. Kak Mariam felt that they should be calling us uncle and auntie because many of them are of the same age as our own children (ps: I once mentioned to Aisyah - that age is in the mind, if you don't mind age, age will not mind you).

Although we arrived late (due to an accident at Chai Chee Road junction) we were able to connect with their experiences, and for me it brought back memories of my 3-week International Leaders Visitors Programme in the United States in 2004.

On particular interesting reflection shared by Sis Masyithah was the Passover she attended on invitation of the Jewish community in Hartford. She pointed out that the elaborate dinner was sequenced to re-enact the religious history of Prophet Moses and the Children of Israel. Every "course" of the dinner signified an episode of the history and tradition. What was amazing for me what that the Passover dinner was a family affair - and they involved their children to partake in the preparation of the dinner and involved games (as part of the dinner sequence) to make it exciting for them. It was a three-in-one, I told myself (or is it a trinity !?) - RFF (Religious learning, Family bonding, and Food for everyone) What a great idea ! Something we could adopt and adapt within our family.

Kak Mariam and I truly appreciate the value of living abroad. It had enriched us and our children too. They spent their vacation in New Zealand's South Island last year to appreciate the beauty and grandeur of Allah's creation. But visit as a tourist to another country can never be compared with living and be part of the community of that country. Particularly if you end up staying in the Marriotts or Le Meridiens, strolled along fancy boulevards and shopped at Dorothy Perkins, Downtown.

Have you visited a place or a country and yet never got to speak to a local throughout your stay (and getting a piece of info at the hotel reception cannot be counted - since the staff too is a foreigner herself :o) for a richer appreciation of the society - rather than beautiful (digital) photos of places, monuments and landmarks (and yourselves in the forefront, of course).

So what is a "better" way to travel? you may asked. Should we be backpackers to enmesh into the society or a community? How can we live with, and amongst them to learn and be enriched within a matter of days or weeks - short period of time (and when we actually need a good break and rest to re-charge after a year of hectic living)?

I usually stayed in the Marriotts, Le Meridiens and Royal Lancasters so that I do not trouble my local hosts or friends who I knew in the city or country. But I usually seek their help for me to visit local mosques, organisations and institutions to meet the locals or the heartlanders (- to borrow a Singaporean parlance). And even to savour the taste of local delicacies at backalleys and unfriendly nooks.

I asked Kak Mariam what was that one significant takeaway for us from the sharing session. She replied almost instantaneously (and interestingly similar to what I had in mind) that we should encourage our young to live abroad so that they may learn and experience beyond the familiar and the comfort of home.

Living with others is learning with others,
learning with others is learning together about life and living,
and not just living as next door neighbours.